Encouraging

Americans parents many times they  do not have the strength to tell their kids that they have done wrong, and they do not show them how to amend it. Many parents think that if they tell their kids they have done wrongs they would not be able to do better on the future that they would be vulnerable to do better and be successful in the future.

When you tell a kid “ You must be very intelligent.” You make them believe they are and they would many times chose the hard problems so they look good in front of others. But in many occasions the kids that have been told they must be very intelligent, they tend to do good to start with, but they end up doing worse. After the kids do bad, they tend to doubt their self, and start thinking they are not as intelligent as they have been told.


In other hand, kids that parents tell them “ You must work hard to do better.” Many times tend to do best. As resource has shown kids that know if they do bad they can fix it by looking into the problem. Kids that have been told they must work hard on a problem, they take the easy problems which would give them more intelligent and learn more about them than the problems that are hard to do and they learn nothing about it. They can take many tests and do bad in the first try but  after they look over it and learn what they did wrong they do much better than the kid that had been told that “ they are very intelligent.”

Giving kids a  label of being smart does not prevent them from performing at their best, many things is why they end up doing bad.

I have experience that many times when you tell students that they are very intelligent. They stop training their best and just focus in the part they are good at and not the ones they can improve, students that have been tell they are intelligent they do the things they are good at, many students are good at reading and focus all in that subject. But in courses that they are not so good they give up when they can not do a simple problem, like a math problems.

Since i was little my mom has always tell me to try my best, and keep trying until i figure out. It does not matter if i am or i am not intelligent, if i try my best in problems that seem difficult at the end i would figure out what was i doing wrong.

Parents have to have the courage to tell their kids in what way they have done wrong and in the ways they have done good or even the best. This does not mean that you should not tell your kid that you love them, this mean that parents should have the strength to tell their kids if they should keep working to do their best or that they did good but can do better.